Micromanagement & Macro-Insecurity

A leader that may be labeled as a micromanager is usually tough, negative, coming down on people and demanding the best out of their teams. We often view these leaders as an abuser of power. Could it be possible that, in some cases, some leaders just genuinely care? Could this approach be a true expression of love?

When this happens, it’s still the leader that thinks the other person has more to offer, and this is their agenda that more production needs to happen. Instead of:

“I see much more potential in you. Do you see this too?”
“Oh, yeah, I do think I have the capacity for more growth.”

“What ways are you thinking? In what ways would you like to grow? What support would you need? How can I support you in that? Is what I'm doing supportive to you actually? Do you feel like I'm being too much? Or do you think I'm not doing enough? How involved do I need to be for you to operate at the level that you think you can? Maybe there is someone else who can be of better service.” etc.

There is no micromanaging, there is only Marco-insecurity. Often it comes from the fear of losing control. Fear also drives the need for control in the first place. So, as long the interaction is coming from these places, you're not in service. You’re serving how you feel about the situation, rather than what the other person needs.

With heart,

Gil·ad (eternal-joy)