Non Enemy

No one is your enemy. To call someone your enemy is a fundamental misunderstanding of the human nature and relationships. When we call somebody our enemy, we first must assume that their behavior is because of me and their hatred of me, which is never the case. People’s violent behavior is and actions against you is because of the anger, hatred, and trauma of their own experience— they hate their inner state of being, they are angry with their inner reality and by chance you stand there across the border to reflect all of this hatred and anger within themselves that does not find resort. It is like looking in the mirror when you anyway do not like the way you looked the way you are— the only thing you will see in that mirror is your own inner-ugliness and all the things you do not like and that others have and you do not have.

So when that person “enemy” is looking at you from across the border, the only thing they can see is the image they have of themselves and all the things you have but they don’t have. All the hatred about themselves and their situation surfaces in that moment.

Then their violence is towards that reflection in the exact same way a person will try to kill the one they see in the mirror because in that mirror they do not actually see themselves but they only see their hatred of themselves and everything they do not have. That mirror only ever represents what they are lacking and it work the same way with that “enemy.” You are only a reflection of what they lack within themselves and this border represents everything they do not have. The border is the giant mirror and you are the reflection in that mirror.

And this is just the first step because when we do not see all of this and we assume that their behavior is because of their hatred towards us, we then take a position and from all possible positions, which one do we choose to take? The victim position, of course— they hate me, they want to kill me, they-me, they-me— we repeat from victimhood. We first create separation and then place ourselves in the victim position and from that victim position we feel powerless, because is the only thing a victim feels, and from this feeling of powerlessness we want to fight them which is the worst place to fight from even if you are pro fighting— that’s just simple physiology.

So then we have one person who feels terrible about themselves trying to fight their own reflection while you assume that this reflection is you and you take on a victim position and want to fight back.